New CDD Group

I am helping to start a new Group on Telegram devoted to discussing Christian Domestic Discipline and supporting couples in their CDD journey.

If you would like to be invited to the group, you may email me at epaster 49 @ gmail.

Remove the spaces in the address above and add the appropriate top-level domain.

Eric

 I haven't gotten much response from this blog but I am trying to revitalize the Domestic Discipline forum at https://www.voy.com/247711/. 

Please come and discuss wife spanking with us. 

Eric

Time to Try Again

 It has been five years since I last posted. There were very few followers then, so I don't expect there to be any now, but maybe over time I will attract people interested in domestic discipline. 

I have observed that there are few men discussing MF domestic discipline. Men tend to have less presence on social media to begin with, but on top of that, men tend not to talk about how they just spanked their wife. No matter how we try to say it, we come off as condescending at best and cruel at worst. On the other hand, when a woman tells her friends, even her virtual friends, that she got a spanking, she is seen sympathetically and even brave for discussing it. 

Nonetheless, I will make another attempt to foster some rational discussion of the benefits to couples of domestic discipline. It has certainly benefitted our marriage. We have been doing this for all 26 years of our marriage. These days she does not need to be corrected very often, but last month, even though she is 70 years old, she was disobedient and disrespectful and earned herself a bare bottom spanking.

If anyone is interested in discussing MF domestic discipline, please leave a comment. Let us know how discipline works in your household.  

Eric

Consistency

If you read DD blogs, one of the common themes is women complaining that their husbands are not consistent with their discipline. As a HOH, I know that I have not been consistent. This has bothered me because I have read about how important consistency is to women in DD marriages. After 21 years of leading, and correcting my wife, I have two thoughts about consistency.

1. Ladies, be careful what you ask for
2. Men, stop worrying about consistency

One of the wonderful paradoxes of domestic discipline is that wives love having husbands who love and care about them enough to correct them when their behavior is damaging to their marriage. At the same time, they hate being punished and will do whatever they can to avoid the spanking they have earned. My wife knows that DD is important for our marriage and she wants her husband to be in charge, but when she has misbehaved she is like a little girl who doesn’t want to be spanked.

The only way a man can be consistent in punishing his wife is to not punish her at all. That sounds good to a naughty girl with a sore bottom, but it is not in her best interest in the long run. I have learned that for my wife, more spankings are better than fewer spankings. When I am worrying about been “fair” or “consistent” I am likely to talk myself out of giving a spanking.

Men like myself, who try to live with our wives in an understanding way¹, come up with lots of reasons not to give a spanking;

• She didn’t mean to
• I may not have been clear in my expectations
• It is not a good time
• She is under a lot of stress

It is always in her, and his, best interest to punish a wife’s bad behavior. The most effective punishment for my wife (and I think all women) is a bare bottom spanking (often with corner time).

My advice for wives is, don’t nag your husbands about consistency (or anything else). Support his authority to discipline you when and how he sees fit.

My advice for husbands is, don’t let your concerns about consistency, timing, or even fairness prevent you from administering a spanking whenever she disobeys, is disrespectful, or otherwise misbehaves.

^{1. I Peter 3:7}

More Often

I spank my wife and have for over 20 years, but I still find I don't do it often enough. My wife is happier, I am happier, our marriage is better, when she has been spanked recently. I know that and yet, I still tend to talk myself out of spanking her. She doesn't give excuses, I give them for her, "She isn't feeling well", "Now is not a good time", "She didn't mean to be disrespectful","Maybe I wasn't clear about what I expected". While I am talking myself out of spanking her, life moves on and it seems too late.

Here is my three-point plan to correct this.
     1. Enforce the rules. Remember it is my job, not hers to interpret the rules. 
     2. No excuses. I don't accept them from her, I shouldn't accept them from me either. 
     3. If it crosses my mind that she should be spanked, then she should. Otherwise, I talk myself out of it.

Do other men find that they tend not to spank as often as they should? How do you deal with that?

Why I Spank My Wife

This is one of my EP posts.

It's a cliche but I spank my wife for her own good. She benefits from a spanking because;

1. It is a clear demonstration of how I feel about her misbehavior. 
2. It reinforces our roles in our marriage. 
3. After I have spanked her, I am no longer mad at her. 
4. Making the effort to correct her shows that I love her and that our relationship is important to me. 

My wife doesn't like getting a spanking, and she hates the corner time before. What she would hate even more would be if I stopped caring enough to spank her when needed for her own good and for the good of our marriage.

Welcome EP Refugees

I have had this account for a while as a means to follow other blogs that interested me. The news that the Experience Project will be closing has motivated me to use it as a way to keep in touch with my EP friends and others who support domestic discipline and the spanking of adult women. Please use this post to let me and our friends know about other good DD forums to continue the discussion. If you wish to contact me privately, you may use the email link on this blog's home page.

I will start by mentioning two DD discussion forums;

• Domestic Discipline,   http://www.voy.com/244008/
• Wives who are spanked for punishment,  http://www.topix.com/forum/news/sex/TSGIFEH1MQ3FP3USF

Please support others by posting about other helpful forums, discussion boards, and blogs.